When we feel like we are falling apart, we look for someone to save us and make us happy. It’s normal, we want someone to be there for us and make our lives easier because we feel as if we can’t do that on our own. But the reality is that you may have people who love you, but they can only do so much to help. Saving yourself and becoming happy is all up to you. You can’t wait around to be rescued. One day you’ll take this mindset you have that everything is against you and throw it away and realize you have been living life so wrong. No one can save you, but you can become happy again. Here are five reasons you only need yourself to be happy.
Number Five: Only You Can Change Your Perspective.
You are the only person who can change the way you view your life. You can’t just live every day looking at the negatives in everything and no one can change this for you. If you really want to start living a happier life then this is where you need to start. You need to not only recognize the mistakes you have made and learn from them but you also then need to push all the negativity out of your mind. Once you can start seeing the world in a more beautiful way, then you will start to see yourself in a different light. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and thinking that the world is out to get you.
Instead, pick yourself up, find the positives in the hard times and if you can’t then recognize that this time will pass. If you’re going through heartbreak, realize that something better will come along. If your boss yelled at you today, notice that you can be doing better or maybe they had a hard morning. If your life isn’t going as planned, realize that maybe there’s a better path for you. Stop worrying so much, every day is a new day .You only have so much time in this world, don’t you want to see it in the best way you can?
Number Four: Only You Can Become the Best Version of Yourself.
You need to stop making excuses for why you aren’t a certain way. If you want to be something and do something, then do it. No one else can help you with this. Sure it’s easier said than done, but if you want to make something of yourself then you have to work for it. If it were easy, then everyone would be living the perfect life. If you want a certain job, do what you need to get there. If you want to lose some weight, work hard and do it. If you want to be happy, stop saying you aren’t and become happy. Most of the worrying and discouraging that we do towards ourselves is pointless. If you want something, commit yourself to it and become the best that you can be. We are capable of doing so much more than we believe.
Number Three: You Can Make Yourself Feel Good.
Everyone dislikes certain things about who they are. We all wish we could change certain things about ourselves, but some things you just can’t. We look in other people for compliments and someone to make us feel good about ourselves, but at the end of the day you only have yourself and trying to make someone else provide you with confidence, won’t work out. You have to work on loving yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself what you love about who you are, and if you don’t see anything you love, work on changing that. Start to realize how wonderful and amazing you are. You have so much potential, now you just have to believe in yourself.
Number Two: You Can Choose to Be Selfless…and Selfish.
It’s important to help others whenever you can. Committing one selfless act a day, such as something as small as holding a door open for someone to as big as paying for the person behind you’s coffee in the morning, can bring a smile to someone’s face. This does not only improve the other person’s happiness, but also your own. However, it is still important to be selfish from time to time. You have to remember yourself sometimes, so go and treat yourself. If you had a long day, go home and binge watch TV. If you got an A on an exam, buy yourself something nice. Spoil yourself now and then. If you remember to pay attention to others as well as yourself, it will be difficult to find something to be unhappy about.
Number One: Just Be Happy.
If you want to be happy, do it. In life, we complicate things so much more than they have to be. It’s really all pretty simple – find what make you happy and do it. Stop worrying what people think. Stop questioning what you should do. Don’t worry about messing up. Stop thinking life is only work, you have plenty of time for that. Don’t dread life. You only have one life to live, make the best of it. Travel, fall in love, get hurt, pick up a random hobby, cry, be crazy. Feel every emotion you can and live this life to the fullest and you will find happiness. You don’t need to be rescued; you just need to be there for yourself because you’re the only one who can save yourself by becoming truly happy.